as we are all probably aware by now,
it is easy to get sucked into this blog world.
as we are probably even more aware there are some blogs way more popular than others and those bloggers only cyber communicate with the other super popular bloggers.
{can we ever escape high school??}
recently, i have seen certain big time bloggers post that they are thrilled to be nominated as the most fashionable mommy - in the blogsphere.
don't get me wrong,
it's great for them but i often wonder where their babies are when they are taking 100038437 photos of themselves in their anthropologie outfits and $400 diaper bags.
{anyone watch kim and kourtney take new york? where the hell was baby mason the whole season, i only ever saw his crib}
sometimes i have to take myself away from these blogs because i find myself resenting my own life.
i see all these "things" these fashionable mommies have and own and jealously seeps into my life.
especially now as we are buying up everything for our little boy,
because hey, i wanna look good being a mommy too.
i have almost deleted this blog numerous times to try to escape the black hole it can be.
and sure, i love to look nice and i love things too, but i need to be able to accept the fact that it is completely irresponsible and unreasonable for me to own a petunia pickle bottom cake diaper bag...
orrrrr, really necessary.
anyway.
i don't want to be recognized on here as having great style,
that i always look good no matter what and have expensive and irreplaceable vintage clothing...
{umm hello, i'm about to enter the world of baby vomit and little boy pee guns}
but as a good mother, wife and human being.
who writes in sarcastic undertones sometimes and complains about how her husband still hasn't fixed her screeching dryer.
i probably wont even get dressed for the next year of my life, let alone do anything with my hair.
and i'm fine with that and i hope you all are too.
also, on a somewhat related note...
i loved reading this article about something myself and all the people i know who read blogs wondered about...
I agree 100% with all that. I was watching k&ktny the other day when I was home alone and seriously all I kept thinking was Baby Mason was NO WHERE to be found! I rationalized it that she just didn't want him to be on TV, but he's been on TV before AND she did lots and lots of stuff without him. Weird. Not ok. You'll never be that kind of mom no matter how much cool baby stuff you have, so don't worry haha.
ReplyDeleteHei Chelsey! My name is Magalie, I am a French girl/woman living in Norway, I often read your blog. I started because of a link on a other blog related to your wonderful wedding dress, I very like this last post. Often I feel as spy to read about your life but I have to say that I love your honesty, down to earth problem with money, moving and cleaning stuff.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I feel like you, damned jealous of the pretty vintage dresses and perfect home and cupcakes but still I read all these blogs too. I thank you for sharing the links to this article, I am feeling the exact same thing! And the most funny is that my life in Europe is very very different from yours. But I enjoy those readings and get ideas and thoughts to discuss. I wanted to leave you a comment this morning to not be a silent spy anymore! I wish you the best from a grey morning in Norway!
I totally agree with everything you said. I mean, I don't quite relate with the mommy things, but I know what it's like to somehow feel like your life is inadequate in comparison to other blogs'. What I always try to remember is that everyone's blog is filtered or censored in some way. Of course everyone will write about all of the great and "perfect" things in their lives, but I highly doubt that it's a complete depiction of their lives.
ReplyDeleteI've always appreciated your honesty whether with your blog, tweets, or anything. Those other bloggers might seem like they live ideal mommy-lives, but I like that what you share is real.
exactly why I haven't posted in ... well... forever. real life is much better and you know those "popular bloggers" struggle just as much as we do, they just have a better way of covering it up.
ReplyDeleteI really appreciated this post (: I like that you are being real about the struggles of a young marriage and family to be. I might not be married or having a baby anytime soon, but it's encouraging to see you facing life head on and trying your best with whatever you have (: all my love to you and your baby boy! Xo
ReplyDeleteyes, yes, and more yes! ...although I don't ever wonder where their babies are when they have their photos taken. a mom's gotta have some time for herself too, and if that's how they choose to spend their time, good for them. however, i have to really fight the black hole of comparisons and jealousy too. I also have to remind myself that it's not all real, things aren't always as they seem. I know this for a FACT with some blogger. it really helps give me some perspective when I'm not feeling good enough & when I'm thinking that their lives are blissful, pretty perfection 24/7. and I read that article awhile back too. very interesting.
ReplyDeleteand I totally agree with the mega-bloggers who only talk to other mega-bloggers thing. it's totally high school. I'm not sure we ever really leave high school. at least, not entirely.